This website supports women who have undergone a pregnancy termination due to a poor prenatal diagnosis, problems with their own health, or for the health of another fetus (selective reduction).

Please check our information section for links to books, videos, support groups and memorial ideas. We also have a downloadable Brochure available. If you have questions or would like assistnce with finding resources, please contact us.

If you learn that something is seriously or fatally wrong with your developing fetus, you are faced with making a difficult decision. If you choose to have an abortion, please call the NAF Hotline referral line 1-877-257-0012 for assistance finding a provider (no funding assistance provided on this line). For information about abortion and other resources, including financial assistance, please call 1-800-772-9100.

Informational Links

National Society of Genetic Counselors - Counseling to promote informed choices and adaptation to the risk or condition.

NORD - National Organization for Rare Disorders, Inc.

Genetic Alliance - We transform health through genetics. We promote an environment of openness centered on the health of individuals, families, and communities.

March of Dimes - Working together for stronger, healthier babies.

National Abortion Federation - (NAF) is the professional association of abortion providers in North America.

Chicago IVF - Your Resource for Infertility Information.

A Word To Our Visitors

For those of you who have come here for support, we are sorry this note has to be written. As stated above, this is a site for parents who have made the decision to end a much-wanted pregnancy due to severe or lethal birth defects. As we reach out to those parents, we also get site visitors who have not been through this tragedy. We would like to remind those people that this is a site for grieving parents, not for debate.

The Administrators of A Heartbreaking Choice

We'd like to extend a special thank you to Maribeth Wilder-Doerr, who made this website and its extended network of support possible. This creation began in her heart ... and all the parents who have benefited from her care will be forever grateful.


Books on Loss and Grief

Our Heartbreaking Choices: Forty-Six Women Share Their Stories of Interrupting a Much-Wanted Pregnancy

The Dive :: A Memoir

A Time to Decide a Time to Heal: For Parents Making Difficult Decisions About Babies They Love

Precious Lives Painful Choices: A Prenatal Decision-Making Guide

Sunshine After the Storm: A Survival Guide for the Grieving Mother

Empty Cradle, Broken Heart, Revised Edition: Surviving the Death of Your Baby

Empty Arms: Coping With Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Death

A Silent Sorrow: Pregnancy Loss

Unspeakable Losses: Healing From Miscarriage, Abortion, And Other Pregnancy Loss

Surviving Pregnancy Loss: A Complete Sourcebook for Women and Their Families

Difficult Decisions: For Families Whose Unborn Baby Has a Serious Problem

Books for Fathers, Family, Children and Friends

Couple Communication After a Baby Dies: Differing Perspectives

For Better or Worse: For Couples Whose Child Has Died

How to Say it When You Don't Know What to Say: The Right Words For Difficult Times

A Guide For Fathers: When A Baby Dies

When Your Friend's Child Dies: A Guide to Being a Thoughtful and Caring Friend

When Pregnancy Fails: Families Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death

What You Can Say When You Don't Know What to Say: Reaching Out to Those Who Hurt

Books about Trying Again and Pregnancy after Loss

Journeys: Stories of Pregnancy After Loss

Trying Again: A Guide to Pregnancy After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Loss

Pregnancy After a Loss: A Guide to Pregnancy After a Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Death