Six Years After maiking
A Heartbreaking Choice

By SarahBird's Mom

I wanted to share with the newly grieving that my Original Heartbreaking Choice due date was Oct 25, 2007. That date was once the darkest day of my life. Instead last year on Oct 25, I hosted a play date for my daughter's friends. SaraBird's younger sister was playing with other little siblings.

Last year a friend got a cancer treatment and another friend visited her father who had recently tried to commit suicide. They were perhaps in their darkest hours, but I could be there to support them and think of them, since I am now six years away from my Heartbreaking Choice.

Sure I still sometimes dream of my two Heartbreaking Choice babies. Sometimes in a movie or a doctor's office I have a flashback. But I'm at long last a mom to a four year old and a 1 year old and life is good.

Please know that, if you are grieving, trying to conceive, or enduring a stressful pregnancy, please know you will have a future of love and family despite your current pain and loss.


Books on Loss and Grief

Our Heartbreaking Choices: Forty-Six Women Share Their Stories of Interrupting a Much-Wanted Pregnancy

The Dive :: A Memoir

A Time to Decide a Time to Heal: For Parents Making Difficult Decisions About Babies They Love

Precious Lives Painful Choices: A Prenatal Decision-Making Guide

Sunshine After the Storm: A Survival Guide for the Grieving Mother

Empty Cradle, Broken Heart, Revised Edition: Surviving the Death of Your Baby

Empty Arms: Coping With Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Death

A Silent Sorrow: Pregnancy Loss

Unspeakable Losses: Healing From Miscarriage, Abortion, And Other Pregnancy Loss

Surviving Pregnancy Loss: A Complete Sourcebook for Women and Their Families

Difficult Decisions: For Families Whose Unborn Baby Has a Serious Problem

Books for Fathers, Family, Children and Friends

Couple Communication After a Baby Dies: Differing Perspectives

For Better or Worse: For Couples Whose Child Has Died

How to Say it When You Don't Know What to Say: The Right Words For Difficult Times

A Guide For Fathers: When A Baby Dies

When Your Friend's Child Dies: A Guide to Being a Thoughtful and Caring Friend

When Pregnancy Fails: Families Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death

What You Can Say When You Don't Know What to Say: Reaching Out to Those Who Hurt

Books about Trying Again and Pregnancy after Loss

Journeys: Stories of Pregnancy After Loss

Trying Again: A Guide to Pregnancy After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Loss

Pregnancy After a Loss: A Guide to Pregnancy After a Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Death