Lovingly Dedicated to All AHC Babies

This website supports women who have undergone a pregnancy termination due to a poor prenatal diagnosis, problems with their own health, or for the health of another fetus (selective reduction). If you have had a pregnancy termination for medical reasons, we are here for you. You'll find articles on how to deal with the grief, stories from women just like you, who have have made this Heartbreaking Choice to end a much wanted pregnancy.

Although it is estimated that between 80 and 95 percent of parents receiving a severe prenatal diagnosis choose to end the pregnancy, those who face this nightmare often feel alone. There is very little in the way of support programs for them. With this site and the dedication of courageous parents willing to reach out, we hope to create a safe haven of encouragement, validation, hope and healing.

Discussion Board

AHC now has its own private discussion board available. Using this board does not require e-mail. As with our listserv, the private forums on our board are open only to those who've ended a pregnancy following a catastrophic prenatal diagnosis. Visit the link to learn how to join. A Heartbreaking Choice Forums

Listserv Mailing List

The AHC mailing list is a closed and moderated mailing list designed to protect your privacy but provide e-mail with other parents (Dads are included) who have ended a pregnancy either due to birth defects or risk to wellbeing of the mother. It is available to anyone with an email address who has ended a wanted pregnancy.

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If You Would Like To Donate

To date this site has been created and maintained entirely by volunteers. As the costs of hosting and maintaining this website continue to rise, even a contribution of a dollar or two will help to maintain this important resource! If you would like to donate you can do so by clicking below or going to PayPal and sending a donation to webmaster@aheartbreakingchoice.com. All money donated goes directly to the maintenance, hosting and software costs of this important resource as well as the maintenance of the Memorial Rose Garden.


Grandparent's Forum

We now offer a grief support forum just for grandparents. This forum is open to those who have a daughter or daughter-in-law who has ended a pregnancy following a catastrophic prenatal diagnosis. Visit the link to join the discussion.

Share With Us

If you are a parent who has ended a pregnancy and would like to contribute your story to this site, please e-mail your personal story, poetry, journal entry, suggestions, etc. to us.

Memorial Rose Garden

A special place to post a memorial in honor of your cherished baby.

Nuevo!

Visite al Traductor En línea de Promt para traducir cualquiera de estas páginas en el español! Simplemente copie la dirección de página de web, péguelo en la forma y presione el botón 'traducir'.

In Memory of Dr. George Tiller
August 8, 1941 - May 31, 2009



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Mothers tell their stories...


I told her how sorry I was and that I loved her and did not want her to suffer. I would rather suffer every day for the rest of my life than to allow her to suffer one moment in life.

~Mom of an Angel

Everything was going great. As already having two "normal" pregnancies under my belt, I felt confident. I knew there was always that chance of hearing bad news but I said "no, not me, not our baby."

~A Heartbroken Mother

We felt that if our daughter had been in a car accident and was on life support with the same internal injuries, we would not keep her on life support and let her suffer. This child deserved the same dignity."

~ A grieving mom

I initially thought I would "be brave" and continue my pregnancy. But I came to realize that ultimately it wasn't about how strong I could be, how deeply I wanted this baby or what important lessons he could teach me. It was about what he would experience in his short life. Given his diagnosis, he would have known only suffering. As his mother, I couldn't allow that to happen.

~ A mother at peace

It was our ignorance for believing that all pregnancies led to a healthy baby. It was my arrogance for believing that since I had the best medical care, took prenatal vitamins even before and during my pregnancy, never took drugs, never smoked cigarettes and drank about half a glass of wine a year, that our baby would be safe.

~A bereaved mother

A mother will stop at nothing, including her own hurt, both mentally and physically, to protect her child.

~Brokenhearted Mother